I provide an accepting environment for those who find that being kinky is a core part of their identity. As a kink aware therapist, I am knowledgeable about common BDSM and power-exchange practices, dynamics, kinks and fetishes.
The majority of kinky people who seek therapy are just looking for acceptance and to not have their identity deemed part of the “problem” they are seeking therapy for. I will not make this assumption, nor will you have to spend your therapy hour educating me on your life-style.
Others, seek a kink-aware therapist because they are navigating specific issues around their kink or power-exchange relationship/s. Therapy can create a space for you to explore these issues, and learn relationship skills to communicate your desires to your partner/s in an effective way.
some examples of issues I can help with:
- Navigating a relationship where one partner is kinky and the other is not
- Learning to integrate into the lifestyle and building community
- Exploring kink-related interests and decreasing shame around sexuality
- Relationship therapy that is affirming of D/s and kinky relationship dynamics
- Setting boundaries and communication
- Out of control behavior related to kink (e.g. not engaging in kinks in a way that is consensual. risk-aware, and/or negative consequences related to kink)
- Coming out as kinky
- Performance anxiety related to sexual interests or Dominant/submissive roles
- Trauma-focused kink-aware therapy; helping clients navigate past trauma that intersects with kink in a way that is healing and empowering
